I think every Valentine's Day there should be a free concert of music especially for the lonely, rejected and lost. In my ideal program, the first half would consist of music inspired by Dante and the Divine Comedy ( everything from the arias of "Francesca da Rimini" to Liszt's Dante Sonata to Lorena McKinnett's Celtic-influenced "Dante's Prayer") . The second half would consist of Beethoven, especially the late piano sonatas and string quartets. In the midst of the commercial sentimentality and rampant cloying materialism of Valentine's Day, it is important to remember that love can indeed redeem the world , even when it doesn't lead to the wedding chapel or a romantic ending..
Dante and Beethoven are the best examples I know of how a broken heart can actually become food for the world. Dante would never have written the Divine Comedy if he had gotten his Valentine, Beatrice,-and if any of the women Beethoven ardently courted had accepted his proposals or returned his affections, I doubt we would have the staggering beauty of his late period works. Love can take many forms, and the life and works of both Dante and Beethoven testify that even (and maybe especially) unrequited love can become a powerful force for beauty, revelation, transformation and healing in the world.
Below is a youtube link to my favorite piece of grief, longing and loss: the "Cavatina" from the String Quartet OP. 130 in Bb Major by Beethoven, written near the end of this short, messy, misshapen, funny looking man's life. Listen to how, in the middle section, the lower strings throb and ache while the first violin cries out in desolation ("Beklempt", meaning "choking" is written in the score). And marvel at the grace and profound consolation Beethoven pries from the fingers of his heartbroken despair.His music promises that you, too, are not beyond love (even if you, too, are deaf, ugly and foul smelling - as he was). Somewhere- maybe beyond this mere mortal realm- somewhere, there is a love answering back to you. A love, as Dante wrote at the end of Paradise, "That moves the sun and all stars".